Lover learns he’s not first to propose

DEAR ABBY: I met the love of my life eight months ago. Everything about our relationship is perfect. We both love our families, fine food, games and each other. We met at an antique store and now have an extensive stamp collection together.

Wanting this joy to last forever, I proposed to her. I couldn’t imagine a happier life, until I discovered that she is already engaged. Her mother informed me that she had accepted a proposal from a close friend of ours months ago.

At first I was devastated, but now I understand the situation. She felt obligated to accept his proposal, yet I know she will only find true happiness by marrying me. How do I go about bringing this up to her? I’m very non-confrontational and don’t want her to feel awkward or uncomfortable. Should I tell her what I know or wait for her to come to me? Please help. — In Love But Confused

DEAR IN LOVE: Something is definitely wrong with this picture. Sometimes confrontation is healthy. Don’t waste another moment waiting for the girl to level with you. Tell her what her mother told you and ask if it is true. If it is, she needs to explain. Although you may be ready to settle down and get married, she may not be emotionally mature enough to marry either one of you.

DEAR ABBY: Today,

June 21, is the annual ASK Day (Asking Saves Kids). Children are out of school and visiting other people’s homes. This is a moment to remind parents to ask if there are guns in these homes and if they’re stored safely — out of kids’ reach.

Will you help us get the word out about our campaign? — Bettina Lanyi, Asst. Director of Partnerships, Brady Campaign

DEAR BETTINA: I’m pleased to spread the word. The ASK Campaign’s goal is to ensure kids’ safety by encouraging parents to ASK if there is an unlocked gun in the homes where their children play.

For more information, I encourage you to visit askingsaveskids.org. There you will find various resources, including tips on how to bring up the sometimes-awkward topic of safe storage.

DEAR ABBY: My investment adviser got married four months ago. He and his wife have invited me to a celebration of their marriage, an evening BBQ at their condo rooftop. Should I bring a gift? And what would be appropriate? — Betty in Florida

DEAR BETTY: A token gift would be thoughtful. Something they could use at one time or another might be a nice picture frame. Be sure to include a thoughtful note wishing them a lifetime of happiness.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.