Anyone can celebrate Valentine’s Day
DEAR ABBY: Valentine’s Day is here and, to be honest, I don’t know much about St. Valentine. So I wonder if he meant the day to only be about lovers.
Is there any reason I shouldn’t send valentines to my friends? Why should anyone feel bad because they’re not “with” someone? It seems to me this should be a time of year you can let a buddy know you appreciate him, or let your brother, cousin, sister, neighbor or co-worker know you care.
Happy Valentine’s Day to you, Abby! — Tim in Syracuse
DEAR TIM: Valentine’s Day may have started as a celebration of romance and romantic love, but it has broadened to acknowledge other kinds of love and affection. There’s absolutely no reason you cannot celebrate the way you described.
Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU, Tim, and to all my readers, for whom I have great appreciation and affection.
DEAR ABBY: My brother is a 59-year-old widower. He has dated a few women over the years, and he’s very afraid of being alone.
The woman he is with now has made it clear that she is with him because he can provide financial security for her. She’s pushing him to move in together and get married, but only after he sells his house and buys a new one. However, she is unable to contribute anything financially, so this would all be out of his pocket. He looks past all of this.
I have told him I’m worried about her using him for his money, but he doesn’t want to hear it. How can I get through to him? — Wise Sister in Pennsylvania
DEAR SISTER: You obviously can’t. However, his lawyer might be able to deliver that message more effectively than you.
DEAR ABBY: My father passed away after a long illness four months ago. I lived in the same building as my parents, but a different apartment. (I still do.)
Obviously, I encounter other tenants in the public areas of the building. Since my father’s death, most of them have asked me how my mother is doing. However, no one has ever asked me how I am doing. — Still Grieving
DEAR STILL GRIEVING: When there is a death, many people are uncomfortable. They don’t mean to be insensitive.
I assume that your mother and father are/were elderly. Your neighbors may assume that because you are younger and stronger, that you are more resilient and therefore are doing fine. Please don’t hold the fact that they haven’t asked how you are doing against them.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.