Lonely man spending hours at business
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in the retail business for 12 years; my husband and I own it. A customer moved here a few months ago. He’s retired and lives with his wife, daughter and grandchild. He’s bored and doesn’t want to be around his family, so he has started spending every day in our store.
He bothers customers with his stories and traps them for hours at a time. He has purchased some items, so he is buying from us. But I can tell he just wants a place to hang out. He is loud and intrudes into other people’s conversations when they are at the counters. He has also taken a liking to one employee who works Saturdays and has started spending four to five hours every Saturday coming in and trying to make conversation about anything.
I don’t know how to tell him he can’t hang out at our store. — Unpleasant Situation
DEAR UNPLEASANT:
Check out what services are available for seniors in your area. Then explain to the customer that while you appreciate his business, you DEAR ABBY and your employees have work to do, limited time to do it and cannot socialize with him. Then suggest some places where he can spend time, volunteer, etc. DEAR READERS: A group of distinguished psychiatrists, the Group for the Advancement of Psychiatry (GAP), needs help from some of you. They are seeking to understand how faith identity — being spiritual, religious, spiritual but not religious, or neither religious nor spiritual — positively or negatively affects mental health and well-being.
Below is the URL to an online survey. The questions address the following topics:
■ Do you identify as religious, spiritual, both or neither?
■ What religious and/or spiritual practices do you participate in, if any?
■ What are your current levels of anxiety, and what is your current mood?
Understanding your beliefs, including how they affect your mental health, could benefit individuals who need help and haven’t gotten it.
To participate in this anonymous survey, you must be 18 or older. The URL below will direct you to the online survey. For those who have no internet access but would like to participate, please send a letter to:
GAP Religion/spirituality Survey
P.O. Box 570218
Dallas, TX 75357-0218
URL: https://yalesurvey.ca1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8G4JPAMKF2BDLLB Thank you for helping them out. They are a wonderful, caring group of doctors. — Love, Abby
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.