Woman may be all in on loving gambler
DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband and I separated two months after our wedding. Our divorce was final five months ago. After I left him, I started talking to a younger guy I had a lot in common with. However, he has a gambling problem and ended up stealing money from my cash app.
He eventually paid me back and has done everything in his power to get me to trust him again. After he repaid the money, he told me he was in a very dark place and felt horrible about doing it.
He says he loves me, and even though I tried fighting it, I love him too. But there are issues — the trust, the gambling and the age gap. I’m 15 years older. He’s still very young, and I know when I was his age, I wanted different things than I want now. I’m worried he’ll lose interest in me because we are at different points in our lives.
Should I cut ties before my heart gets broken? — Tentative in Wisconsin
DEAR TENTATIVE: How is he dealing with his gambling addiction? Is he still gambling? Has he joined a support group to help him cope with it? Because you divorced after only two months of marriage — and now this — there may be something wrong with your “manpicker.” Before you make any more big decisions about men, I suggest you talk to a psychologist about why you seem to be rushing in and out of relationships.
DEAR ABBY: I just found out my husband and our female friend of 18 months have been texting each other. According to my husband, it’s about politics. My husband and I don’t share the same political views. He says he has nobody to talk to about politics. I don’t understand why he doesn’t talk about politics with his male friends.
I find it suspicious that neither my husband nor this “friend” ever mentioned they were communicating. I think he is going outside our marriage seeking validation from another woman. When I said it, he called me crazy, immature and insanely jealous. I’m not.
I think he’s endangering our marriage because things can start innocently, and he’s seeking something I can’t give him. Our marriage barely survived the last presidential election. Now this. Can I have some advice, please? — Uneasy in Florida
DEAR UNEASY: If the three of you socialize together and the subject of politics comes up, engage with them diplomatically without allowing the conversation to degenerate into an argument. And suggest to your husband privately that since the texts are “only political” in nature, you would like to be able to look at them occasionally.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.