An­nie thanks read­ers, es­pe­cially those seek­ing ad­vice

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In the spirit of

Thanks­giv­ing, I would like to thank all of you

— my read­ers. I par­tic­u­larly want to sin­gle out those of you who have reached out by of­fer­ing your ques­tions and opin­ions. With­out you, the col­umn would not be pos­si­ble. To cel­e­brate this spe­cial day, I’d like to share one of my fa­vorite po­ems, be­cause it helps re­mind us that notic­ing the sim­ple plea­sures of life brings us the most joy.

“We Thank Thee,” by Ralph Waldo Emer­son

For flow­ers that bloom about our feet, Fa­ther, we thank Thee. For ten­der grass so fresh, so sweet, Fa­ther, we thank Thee. For the song of bird and hum of bee,

For all things fair we hear or see,

Fa­ther in heaven, we thank Thee.

For blue of stream and blue of sky,

Fa­ther, we thank Thee. For pleas­ant shade of branches high, Fa­ther, we thank Thee. For fra­grant air and cool­ing breeze,

For beauty of the bloom­ing trees,

Fa­ther in heaven, we thank Thee.

For this new morn­ing with its light, Fa­ther, we thank Thee. For rest and shel­ter of the night,

Fa­ther, we thank Thee. For health and food, for love and friends,

For ev­ery­thing Thy good­ness sends,

Fa­ther in heaven, we thank Thee.

Dear Read­ers: Thanks­giv­ing is such a won­der­ful hol­i­day be­cause it helps us fo­cus on all the many bless­ings we have in our lives. There is a book on this topic that I highly rec­om­mend: “The Sim­ple Act of Grat­i­tude,” by John Kra­lik.

Kra­lik tells us how he turned his life around com­pletely by dis­ci­plin­ing him­self to send one thank-you note each day for an en­tire year. Rather than ob­sess­ing about the things that up­set him, he forced him­self to find things for which he was grate­ful.

From that same place of grat­i­tude, a num­ber of read­ers wrote in to share about be­ing grate­ful for each day.

Dear An­nie: This is in re­sponse to “Fear­ing the Fu­ture As An Old Man.” You are start­ing from a good place: Grat­i­tude is the key com­po­nent of a suc­cess­ful old age. So why are you sab­o­tag­ing your­self ? You have no idea of what the com­ing years will be like, any more than you did as a teen.

There is so much to look for­ward to and yet you are pro­ject­ing a neg­a­tive ex­is­tence that will more than likely never hap­pen. Your body will change, so ex­er­cise and eat well and you may end up like my 90-year-old fe­male friend who is in a long-dis­tance bi­cy­cle group or my 73-year-old brother-in-law who just fin­ished a full triathlon.

You sound as if you have gifts and tal­ents, so look for those who need what you have, and for­get about the judg­ments of young­sters.

Those in as­sisted liv­ing may have men­tal or phys­i­cal needs that re­quire care­tak­ers, and they, too, may be very grate­ful for their ex­is­tence. Add a dose of ac­cep­tance to your grat­i­tude, and you’re good to go.

I am 84 and just got back from the gym. — The Best Time of Life

Dear The Best Time of Life: Thank you for shar­ing your op­ti­mism and grat­i­tude.

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