Tips for getting to the truth

What should you do when suspected fibs don’t add up?

Until you have evidence of an untold truth, avoid sweeping accusations, says Lena Sisco, author of “You’re Lying.”

“Never accuse someone of lying because you’re going to ruin rapport and ruin the relationship, personal or professional,” says Sisco.

Try using “non- accusatory language,” which helps build dialogue so they “let their guard down,” says Sisco. She suggests neutral statements such as, “I think you’re not comfortable telling me the whole truth.”

Ask yourself, “Did I make it difficult for them to fess up?” Consider a question such as “Have I made you feel uncomfortable so you don’t want to tell me all the information?” suggests Sisco.

Lastly, employ the power of suggestion. Try telling them they are truthful and honest.

“Once they realize you called them truthful and honest, they think, ‘ Hey, I guess I have to be truthful and honest,’ ” she says.