Nephew isn’t one for interactions

Dear Amy: My nephew, who rents a room in our home, is a 21-year-old good guy.

He is respectful, caring and a great cook. The problem is his social life. When he gets home from work the first thing he does is quickly eat, and then it’s up to his room until the next morning, when it’s time to go to work.

On weekends it’s the same thing.

When my friends come over I invite him to join us, but he just says “maybe later” and heads to his room. He never shows up “later.”

I asked him once why he never goes out, and he simply told me that his friends live too far away. Should my wife and I be concerned? Hibernating Renter

Dear Hibernating: Many people have relationships that are pretty functional and positive but are not actually IRL (in real life). Your nephew might be engaged in relationships through online gaming or other internet sources. You don’t actually know what is going on up there in his lair.

If he is working and seems physically and mentally healthy, then don’t interfere. Continue to encourage and attempt to include him, but don’t be alarmed unless you sense he needs intervention.

His parents might have insight; if you are truly concerned, reach out to them.