With strangers

> Now it’s time to zip it, according to Swann. “With total strangers, I do think we should refrain from sharing too much,” she says, noting it may not be a good idea to burden others with our issues when they can’t do anything to help us and may feel worse once we leave. “We have to be very careful that we don’t unload our challenges onto the other person and then walk away, because there’s nothing they can do about it. The difference between a friend, a co- worker or a family member is that even though you may share information with them that is somewhat unpleasant, there is something they can do. Your co- worker can help you take the load, your friends can call and check in on you, your family members can activate other family members to help, but that stranger really cannot do anything.”