He won’t leave her alone

Dear Amy: I dated a man over three years ago. We met through a dating app.

I was moving to the area where he lived (not because of him). He broke up with me, and I was OK with that.

Afterward, he contacted me a few more times.

A few months after we broke up, I agreed to meet him, thinking that it would finally end his contact.

I stated I was not interested in pursuing any relationship. I blocked him on my phone after the meet-up and thought it was done.

He has since emailed me several times, once while I was dating my (now) husband. I ignored the email.

He then “friend requested” me on my social media and professional profiles. All rejected.

He emailed me again. I replied, saying I wished no more contact, as I’m married. My email was short and to the point but not mean.

He friend-requested me again on social media and went as far as to email me on my work email shortly after. I blocked him again. My husband is fully aware of each contact, and we decided together how to react.

I just received another email (three months later) asking to meet up.

I’d like to ignore this but do not have a clue why he continues to contact me. I have no desire for any relationship. I want him to stop.

Exasperated Woman

Dear Exasperated: You’ve already stated that you don’t want any contact. He has chosen to persist. You should not respond. Create a “rule” that sends any email from him straight to a folder. Check with your company’s HR/IT department regarding any further attempts to connect with you through work channels. This allows you to check to see if he is persisting or escalating. It also will provide evidence of his contact in case you pursue legal action.

Check your state’s laws on filing for a restraining order for cyberstalking.

Dear Amy: I had my DNA tested, as have some of my second cousins, with in one case disturbing results.

One cousin’s paternal grandfather and my maternal grandmother were siblings, but our percent-DNA match is above the feasible range for second cousins and centered on the range for first cousins once removed. My matches with six other cousins with the same great-grandparents (they had nine kids) are in the middle of the normal range.

Having researched DNA results interpretation, I think this cousin’s supposed grandfather probably is his biological father.

Looking at his online family tree, my cousin was born in 1945, his father served overseas in the navy during WWII, and his grandfather lived in the same town as his mother.

It doesn’t really affect his or his kids’ genetic health history. All the actors in this drama are long dead.

I think this is a situation to let sleeping dogs lie.

Know Too Much

Dear Know Too Much: I’m with you.