Girlfriend is surprised to learn man is married

Dear Abby: I am dating someone, and although it hasn’t been that long, so far everything has been great. We each have two children from previous relationships. We have discussed the topic of marriage, having a child of our own and have even considered adoption.

One day he told me he wanted to tell me something. He ended up saying that before going into the military years ago, he “had” to marry his ex. Problem is, although they have lived apart for three years, she isn’t his ex. They are still married. He said they have both moved on. When I asked when he plans to divorce her, he said he hasn’t had the inancial capability to do so. I don’t know how to take this news. Any advice? — Thrown in Nevada

Dear Thrown: You need more information. Has this man been supporting his ex all this time, or is she selfsupporting? Who is supporting the children? How much money does he think he will owe her if they divorce?

I’m not familiar with the divorce laws in Nevada, but an attorney who is licensed there will be. It would be worth your while to make an appointment with one.

Dear Abby: I work two jobs and took time off from my second job so I could watch my four grandchildren for a week when their parents had to go out of state. They did call the 14-year-old daily, but never once called or spoke to me during that time. Is that disrespectful? — Feeling Like Dirt

Dear Feeling Like Dirt: I don’t blame you for being miffed. It was thoughtless of them not to ask to speak with you for a minute. However, if they didn’t respect you, I’m sure they wouldn’t have left their children in your care.

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