Man keeps his travel plans secret from wife

Dear Abby: My husband refuses to enter his work travel schedule on the household calendar. He snapped at me this week when he inally revealed that he was leaving Sunday. It took three more days to get the date he was coming back. It was like pulling teeth. It left me with only two days to decide how to enjoy the time alone.

I think it’s disrespectful to keep your wife in the dark until just a day or two before you leave. I need a way to motivate my man to share his travel dates earlier. I’m at the point where I’m tempted to ignore him and his travel since he is acting more like a child than a husband. Advice? — Kept in the Dark in Louisiana

Dear Kept: Stop putting yourself at your husband’s mercy. If you need a break and would like to schedule appointments, see a play, visit with friends, go on a trip, whatever — schedule it regardless of when your husband will be traveling. And ENJOY yourself.

Dear Abby: Please enlighten me on etiquette. My friend and I were out to lunch. While we were sitting there, she got on Facebook and posted about it. I think it was rude of her not to ask if I minded. It’s not a secret, but why put it on Facebook? I don’t understand why people think they have to advertise everything they do. Do they do it because they want to feel important? — Old-fashioned Woman

Dear Old-fashioned: I am sure some of them do. Others may do it because they want to memorialize the occasion or think others are actually interested. If you preferred that she not do it, you should have spoken up and asked her to please not mention your name or post your image in the future.

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