Grandfather is grumpy around his grandsons

Dear Abby: My husband has a contentious relationship with our grandchildren. He is a fun, happy and interesting person. But by nature he is not “hands on” when it comes to children.

Our son and daughter have great spouses and ive young grandsons. He stands around like a warden waiting for something to happen, then just yells at them. It is clear he doesn’t enjoy being with them, and their mood changes from happy to surly when he’s around.

I have had two talks trying to encourage him to have a positive relationship with the boys, to no avail. He reacts as if I’m the only one who sees this. My sister, son and daughter-in-law have talked to me about it, but I haven’t told my husband. Should I just drop this issue? — Doing the Work of Two

Dear Doing: Your husband may or may not be capable of changing. The next time your sister, son and daughter-in-law talk to you about the negative message your husband is sending the grandchildren, please tell them they should take this up with “Grandpa Grump.”

Dear Abby: Is it OK for me to be carrying my boss’s belongings to his car? Is it acceptable for me to be making his coffee a certain way and picking up his lunch? I was hired as a second administrative assistant, but I feel more like a maid/servant/ slave. It’s 2020! I don’t think women should be treated like this anymore. Any advice? — Uncertain in the East

Dear Uncertain: Have a chat with your employer and review what your duties are supposed to be. Nowhere in your letter is it apparent that your boss is singling you out for these tasks because you’re female. Because you ind these tasks demeaning, consider looking for another job.