Woman discovers the truth about boyfriend

Dear Abby: I have been in a wonderful relationship for two years. We live together. When “Scott” and I first got together, he told me he had a felony conviction and that a woman had falsely accused him of rape. I laughed it off because I didn’t want to see the truth, but it ate at me badly. Then I finally looked it up via a background check, and it’s really bad.

Two months after his exgirlfriend broke up with him, Scott broke into her house and raped her while she was passed out on prescription sleeping pills. She called the police the next day, and he got a plea bargain, went to jail for 100 days and paid her $20,000 in restitution, probation and the whole thing. Scott still insists it was all her fault and that he is the victim. What do you think? — Shattered in the West

Dear Shattered: What I think is that you should extricate yourself from a relationship with this disturbed felon. That Scott blames his victim for the rape he committed tells me he still has not accepted responsibility for his actions and that he is dangerous. Consider contacting the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (rainn.org; 800-656-4673) for advice on how to safely end it.

Dear Abby: I am64 years old and happily married to a wonderful woman. The problem I’m having is she has a very large family. Most of them walk into our home without knocking. Even if I know they are coming over, it bothers me. What do you think about this?— Put Off in Florida

Dear Put Off: Your wife should have spoken to her family years ago and asked them to call before dropping in on you or, at the very least, knock. And if it’s feasible, keep the doors locked.

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