She turned a 2-day yard sale into a year’s worth of giving
It’s not hard to spot Susan Thompson-Gaines’ house on a recent afternoon.
A teddy bear larger than a man sits on her porch, and her yard is packed with people picking through items of all sorts – useful items, unusual items, items that make people ask: “What’s this?”
There are shelves of books, racks of clothes and tables topped with toys. There’s a guitar with three strings and a vintage Fisher-Price record player. There’s a cicada preserved in a pyramid of resin.
And all of it is for sale, for whatever price you want to pay (or bid, if you’re eyeing one of the few items up for auction).
You decide the items’ worth.
If you want to give $5 for 20 dresses, that’s fine.
If you want to hand over $10 for a bike, that’s great.
There’s no judgment or side-eye here in Thompson-Gaines’s yard. There is just “Thanks” and “Have a nice day” and “Hope you enjoy that.”
This is what it feels like to attend the “Kindness Yard Sale.”
The annual event is unusual in how it came to be and what will come of it: enough acts of kindness to fill a year. Most of those acts will take place in the Washington. D.C., region and come in the form of surprises to people who have specific needs and people who are simply having a hard day.
Consider what happened after last year’s yard sale outside Thompson-Gaines’s Northern Virginia house.
The funds went toward buying camping gear for a boy who had never left the city, throwing a virtual beach party for a group of people living with Alzheimer’s disease, and keeping an outdoor pantry filled with food.
They went toward buying a fetal Doppler for a pregnant woman whose husband couldn’t hear their child’s heartbeat at the hospital because of coronavirus restrictions, paying a woman’s DMV fees while she tried to transfer the car title of her deceased father into her name, and adding coffee pods to a teacher’s lounge.
They went toward helping Thompson-Gaines play Santa for a bunch of neighborhood children.
For that, she and her husband, David, set up an outdoor station for kids to write letters to Santa. The instructions asked the children to list a few small items they wanted and a parent’s contact information. Thompson-Gaines then wrote each child, all 111 of them, a personalized letter from Santa, purchased each a gift and left it wrapped under a tree that was adorned with ornaments from people across the neighborhood.
“It was so fun,” she says. “I’m hoping we’ll be able to repeat that this year. And I know the kids in the neighborhood are counting on it.”
Growing up, many of us were taught that acts of kindness should be done quietly and anonymously, that to talk about doing something nice for someone else takes away from the goodness of the deed. Thompson-Gaines believes otherwise. She thinks people should talk more openly about kindness, and that doing so creates “kindness ripples” that spread from one person to another.
She sees kindness as a form of activism – as a purposeful push to create change – and describes herself as a “kindness activist.”
“I am a vigorous advocate of KINDNESS!” she writes on a blog where she details how the yard sale funds are spent. “I hunt for it. I appreciate it. And, whenever I can, I SPREAD IT!”
Thompson-Gaines has, in a way, created an interesting experiment in her neighborhood centered around an important question: What happens when someone makes an effort to show kindness to others, and then shares the stories about those interactions? The answer, so far, based on what’s happened at the yard sale, seems to be that it causes more people to want to help others.
Thompson-Gaines says the yard sale has evolved since she started it three years ago. That first year saw her working mostly alone, asking her neighbors to donate items.
Now, the event has become a communal effort for the neighborhood.
“This year, it was just like an army of people saying, ‘I’m here, what do you need?’” she says.
After the first yard sale, when Thompson-Gaines added up the money that was collected, she had $1,705 to spend on acts of kindness. After this one, even with all the calculations not yet complete, the yard sale raised more than $11,000. Someone bid $230 in an auction for the giant teddy bear. Another person paid $75 for that resin-encased cicada.
A day after the yard sale ended, she was sleeping when a group of women walked into her yard to look through the clothes that remained outside.
Her husband went out to greet them and they bought a few pieces of clothing.
Thompson-Gaines later learned that a neighbor had directed the women to her house and explained to them in Spanish that they could pay whatever they wanted.
They could do that, he told them, because that’s where “Señora Santa” lives.
I AM A VIGOROUS ADVOCATE OF KINDNESS! I HUNT FOR IT. I APPRECIATE IT. AND, WHENEVER I CAN, I SPREAD IT! Susan Thompson-Gaines, on her blog