Read­ers weigh in on whether or not to have chil­dren

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Dear Read­ers: Some­one re­quested that I pose a ques­tion to my read­ers that Ann Lan­ders asked in 1975: “If you had to do it all over again, would you have kids?” I re­ceived an over­whelm­ing re­sponse to this un­sci­en­tific poll.

The largest group of re­spon­dents (77 per­cent) con­sisted of par­ents who would have chil­dren if they had to do it all over again. The sec­ond-most com­mon re­spon­dents were peo­ple who didn’t have kids and didn’t re­gret it (12 per­cent). Next, at 9 per­cent, were par­ents who said that no, if they had to do it all over again, they would not have chil­dren. Lastly, 2 per­cent of peo­ple who re­sponded didn’t have chil­dren but wish they had.

By and large, most peo­ple are happy with their de­ci­sion about whether to have chil­dren. It seems that it re­ally all comes down to at­ti­tude. Those who em­brace their paths and prac­tice grat­i­tude live full lives no mat­ter what their lives are full of.

I’ll be shar­ing let­ters from peo­ple who re­sponded to the sur­vey, start­ing to­day with the first group — par­ents who would still be par­ents if they had to do it all over again. To­mor­row we’ll hear from the next group.

Grand­mama Janet: Although rais­ing chil­dren wasn’t al­ways easy, the joy they have brought into my life has been im­mea­sur­able, and my hus­band feels the same way. And now we have been blessed with two pre­cious lit­tle grand­chil­dren. It’s won­der­ful to be part of the cir­cle of life.

Robin In Ver­mont: If we had it to do over again, would we have kids — SEVEN kids? Would we choose all the sleep­less nights, the seem­ingly un­end­ing trips to pe­di­a­tri­cians, den­tists, op­tometrists? Would we pass on go­ing to “grown-up” movies, plays and con­certs with friends and in­stead at­tend Lit­tle League games and school plays? Yes. Our chil­dren have filled our lives with so much joy. Be­cause my hus­band and I have had to work ex­tra hard to carve out time to­gether, we seem to trea­sure each other’s com­pany even more. Af­ter 40 years of mar­riage, we still love danc­ing in the kitchen and steal­ing a kiss when we can (to the hor­ror of grand­chil­dren who catch us in the act).

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