Woman reconsiders ill boyfriend

Dear Abby: My boyfriend of four years has been diagnosed with chronic traumatic encephalopathy, or CTE. We’re both only 51. Obviously, we face a grim reality. He has already tried once to end our relationship to spareme the inevitable, but I convinced him I’m in it to the bitter end.

Nowhe’s accusing his family (and me) of being interested only in interrogating him about his conversations with others regarding his condition. He has cut off contact for the last few days while he reevaluates all of his relationships.

My problem is the relief I feel. There are no meltdowns, no angry outbursts, no having to tiptoe around our conversations. Until now, I didn’t realize the pressure Iwas under. My dilemma now is: If he wishes to continue our relationship, should I? His anger is scaringme, and he’s losing himself so quickly. He’s not the man I grewto love.

I don’t feel right ducking out when he needs someone the most. I’m confused aboutwhat to do. Any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated.

Torn in Two in the South

Dear Torn: The relationship you sharedwith your boyfriend is essentially over. You stated that his illness is turning him into someone else. You are not hiswife, and you are not responsible for his wellbeing. Talk with his family and suggest they create a long-term plan for his care.

Dear Abby: My daughter-in-law just became a vegetarian and she seems to think pasta, cheese and fruit are all that is needed. She andmy son have a 1-year-old and insist she be a vegetarian too. I’m worried because I feel like the protein is missing. There’s no effort to calculate protein levels, and now she has decided to eliminate cow’s milk, although ice cream and whipped cream seem to be OK. I’ve encouraged my son to add soy and other beans to the baby’s diet. He does all the cooking and seems a bit overwhelmed.

I don’t live close, or I would happily prepare some meals for them. Is there anything I can do to encourage them to plan the meals more carefully and get the proper protein-to-carb ratio? I’ve kept my mouth shut, but I’m worried. Help!

Healthy Grandma in Florida

Dear Grandma: A vegetarian diet can be a healthy one for little ones. Because you have concerns, encourage your son and daughterin-lawto discuss this with their child’s pediatrician. Many books have been written about healthy vegetarian diets, and there is a world of information about it on the internet. Explore the subject for your own peace ofmind.