New Haven Register (New Haven, CT)
Analyzing some more God winks
Q: Over the years, I have been blessed and open to God winks. Not too long ago, my grandson was having problems with his parent's divorce. I decided to ask my deceased mother Olga and my deceased son Joe (he died at birth) to intercede, and I would pray over it.
While driving out of my apartment complex, onto our main road, in front of me was a car with a license plate JOE & OLGA. I couldn't believe my eyes. I wanted to grab my cell and snap a photo, but there was no time. I knew instantly that my mom and my son were interceding.
Think about it, who would have a license plate with the names Olga & Joe?
Talk about a WOW moment! God's signs are all around us; thankfully, I am open to them. Rabbi Gellman, thank you for who you are to all.
By the way, I was a parishioner at Our Lady of Grace in W Babylon, N.Y., and next door was the hospice named after Monsignor Tom Hartman's brother. God, continue to shine His blessings on you. — From D on Long Island
A: Amazing. You know I have a typology for God winks. Type 1 God wink: a sign that violates natural law with a verbal communication. Type 2 God wink: a sign that violates natural law with no verbal communication. Type 3 God wink: a sign that does not violate natural law with a verbal communication. Type 4 God wink: a sign that does not violate natural law with no verbal communication, but is much more than just a random coincidence. Your experience is clearly a Type 4 God wink, but it makes me want to add a Type 5 God wink: a sign that does not violate natural law, but involves the department of motor vehicles! God bless your winks.
Q: I look forward to reading your column on a weekly basis. As a practicing Catholic, I am always interested in religious discussion, and, of course, open to hearing other doctrine and points of view. Additionally, I had the pleasure of being instructed many years ago by Father Tom. He instructed me and my wife when we were preparing to become Eucharistic ministers in our local parish. I have a “God wink” that has stuck with me for many years.
In the early ‘90s, our daughter was very ill, and was being treated by a wonderful physician at Columbia
Presbyterian Hospital in New York City. My wife and I were beside ourselves and were visiting her in the hospital daily. My father, who passed away in 1975, truly loved my daughter, who was our first child. I prayed to him daily to protect her, and send me a sign that she would recover. Well, the sign came and, to me, was unmistakable. One evening, during our long, tedious drive home, there was a violent thunderstorm. I could hardly see to drive on the Long Island Expressway, and was praying silently to my father — for my daughter and also for a safe trip home. Exactly at that moment, a lightning bolt struck a tree not five feet off the road and to our side. The tree was not positioned in a particularly vulnerable spot for a lightning strike and was literally splintered. We were unscathed!
A little further into the trip home, I had to pull to the side of the road, and again lightning struck within feet of the car. No damage, but it was certainly frightening! Why a “God wink?” The next day, the doctor met us with the news that our daughter had improved overnight. There's not a doubt in my mind that my father sent the message to have faith, and that he was taking care of his girl! Keep up the work that you do. Your ministry reaches and impacts countless numbers of people. — From B in Mineola, N.Y.
A: Thanks, B, for illuminating the Type 4 God wink (no violation of natural law and no verbal communication, but more than a mere coincidence). Lightening is the most common natural phenomenon that is often interpreted as a God wink. In your case, the connection to your daughter's sudden healing was striking and I
believe was real. However, there is a problem with Type 4 God winks. Sometimes because of our neediness, we make a connection that is just not there.
Not every lightning strike is an omen. The way God distributes God winks to the needy, and believing people is a true sign of grace, but the actual spiritual mechanics of God winks remains a profound mystery. I can say with confidence that they are way above my pay grade. I am just in awe that God finds ways to lift us up with signs of hope and love.
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Rabbi Gellman is the author of several books, including “Religion for Dummies,” co-written with the Rev. Tom Hartman. Also, the new God Squad podcast is now available.