Proofreader tries to force getting a career advancement

Dear Annie: I work as an editor at a publishing company. It has been difficult to find capable proofreaders. I’ve had one working with me for the past few years who proved herself to be capable. She showed great attention to detail and would make occasional suggestions to books that added value. In the past few months, she has grown frustrated that she hasn’t advanced to editor and has let her proofreading responsibilities slip. More importantly, she has become more vocal about making story suggestions and has gone behind my back to make these. I am supportive of her advancing, but at the appropriate timing, which is dictated by the company and our needs. Do you have any advice on how I might approach her and motivate her?

Frustrated Editor Dear Editor: I recommend taking this proofreader out of the office for lunch, coffee or a walk and asking her about her career ambitions, both short-term and long-term. Some mentorship and guidance should go a long way toward creating a grateful and loyal person and a successful career path.

Dear Annie: I am sending this out to anyone considering suicide. My father killed himself in 1978. I still think about the many what-ifs. The guilt is always with me. He has missed so much in our family. I think of my dad often and will always wonder whether I could have done more. Don’t do this to the ones you leave behind. I know you probably think they would be better off without you, but that is not true.

Daughter Dear Daughter: I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your father. Please do not blame yourself for what happened.

Though I understand you mean well and speak from the heart when you implore suicidal people not to go through with it because of what it would do to their loved ones, I want to note that this style of appeal can heap guilt onto suicidal people when they’re already depressed beyond management. To anyone reading this right now who is considering suicide, please seek help immediately. Dial 911 or call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-799-4889. Counselors are waiting to listen.