Ex should tell his mom baby is on the way

Dear Amy: About two months ago I found out that I was four months pregnant. The telltale signs were not there. I wasn’t sick. In fact, I was losing weight and thought it was because I was stressed. My boyfriend had cheated on me and broke up with mebefore I learned I was pregnant.

WhenI found out, I immediately called him, and his response was, “I cannot support this, I will not support this. You need to take care of this.” I was completely thrown by his reaction. I am34 and successful. He is 37 and has a 5-year-old son (from his previous marriage) that he is amazing with.

I amsure he thought I was lying or that I wanted to get back together with him, both of which are false.

After I spoke with my family and decided to keep the baby, I told him. Then I asked him when he was going to tell his family. He said, “Never, it’s none of their business.”

I can understand that he is upset and nervous. This is not the ideal situation for either of us. Should I reach out to his mother to let her know she will be having another grandchild and give her the chance to make up her mind about whether she wants to be in this child’s life? Or should I just walk away? Dear Confused: Your ex’s mother should be made aware that she will have another grandchild, but, ideally, her son would break this news. Tell him, “I think your momshould be told about this. Do you want to talk to her or should I?”

This is a tough situation. But it is what it is, and time has an amazing way of knitting together solutions as long as everybody stays calm and resolves to be as gentle and patient as possible.

Your ex obviously feels trapped. He is also obviously fertile. I hope he figures out a more reliable birth control method because he seems not to want to have (more) children, and nowhe has two. Dear Amy: I was interested to read the letter from “Worried Husband,” whose wife was going on sleep-eating binges while taking the sleeping drug Ambien. I had a similar experience while on Ambien and amnowusing a homeopathic remedy. I sleep like a baby. Dear Rested: As a longtime insomniac, I can honestly say that I sleep like a baby too.

Every two hours I wake up and cry.