Landlord has become way too handy toward tenant

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for 40 years. He owns rental property, and last year a married woman moved into one of his houses. Her husband lives out of town and is expected to move here once he retires.

A few months ago, she and my husband began an affair. I don’t believe it was sexual, but it was definitely emotional. Once he started having dates with her, I told him to leave — it would be her or me. Their relationship had become too intense with constant texting, telephone calls and late-night visits.

He left, but came back to me shortly after, saying they had a long conversation and that they should “cool” their relationship.

Now, even though they have cooled, they continue to text, and he goes to the house to “fix” things. He says she has no friends and he worries about her. I’m having a difficult time trusting them considering the hell they put me through.

He says he has no friends. I have no problem with him having a friend, but they overstepped their relationship big time. How do I handle this, since he is the landlord?

Dear Left: This tenant needs to find another place to live. I’m going to assume that she won’t be moving, and so — because you and your husband are trying to repair your marriage, he should offer you complete transparency regarding ALL of their contact. He should not be receiving or sending “friendship” texts. He should show you all communication between them. And you should go on “service calls” with him. Understand that at the end of the day, you are not responsible for your husband’s lack of friends. He really does need to make a choice to fully commit to you, and so far, he doesn’t seem to have actually made it.

Dear Amy: Regarding the letter from “Torn,” I had an emotional affair with my boss many years ago. I met with a therapist after I left that job. She counseled that I never see him again. By the time he and I met again a decade later, our ardor had cooled to the point where I wondered what I ever saw in him. Torn should consider a “normalization meeting” with her husband instead of her affair partner.

Dear Glad: Bingo!