Deflect unwanted comments.
Prepare an all-purpose answer.
From your mom to the guy at the local deli, everyone seems to have an opinion about your bump. If your belly is large, you may hear, “Are you due any day now?” or “Sure you’re not having twins?” On the flip side, being told you’re carrying small can make you worry there might be a problem with your baby. Stick with a low-key response such as, “Human reproduction is amazing, isn’t it?” Or just laugh it off and remember that baby bumps come in all shapes and sizes.
The simplest activity, like ordering a decaf latte, can spark unsolicited comments. You can certainly debunk the person’s misinformation by explaining, for example, that it’s fine for pregnant women to have some coffee. People may be eager to share their own pregnancy horror stories with you, like the coworker who offers a play-by-play of her emergency C-section. They usually believe they’re being helpful and want someone else to have the information that they didn’t have. Your response can be polite but direct: “Thanks, but I’d rather not hear about difficult experiences right now.”
Curb intrusive behavior.
Random people may touch your stomach. While the gesture is usually innocent, you can show you’re not comfortable with it by taking a step backward and making a lighthearted joke, such as, “Look, but don’t touch. You break it, you buy it!” You’ll find that no topic is off-limits, including whether you plan to breastfeed. Never feel obligated to reveal your choices. The opinions that matter? Yours and your partner’s. Sources: Kathryn L. Bleiberg, PH.D., associate professor of psychology in clinical psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medicine, in New York City; Paula Spencer Scott, author of Momfidence!; Karen Winter, D.O., a family physician in Novato, California.