Pregnant woman regrets spiting ex


Dear Abby: After a two-year relationsh­ip ended, I got pregnant on the rebound. I called my ex and told him I was having a baby with another man because I wanted to hurt him. Apparently it worked — at least that’s what his best friend told me.

Now that a few months have passed, I ran into him and all those loving feelings I had for him came rushing back. Should I tell him? The father of this baby is a goodfor-nothing deadbeat. He wants to be father-of-the-year without helping me financiall­y.

What should I do about my feelings for my ex, and what should I do about the father of my baby?

— Can’t Decide in New Jersey

Dear Can’t Decide: It is time for you to grow up and accept responsibi­lity for the situation you’re in right now. Your behavior has been immature and irresponsi­ble.

Because you have feelings for your ex, contact him and let him know, but don’t count on his wanting to reconcile. Then you should also contact a lawyer about ensuring that “Babydaddy” lives up to his financial responsibi­lities.

And in the future, when you decide to have sex with someone, recognize there could be consequenc­es and use birth control. Every time!

Dear Abby: Recently my mother and I got into an argument on a four-hour road trip. She didn’t like my opinions or my answers, so she kicked my 17-year-old daughter and me out of her vehicle and abandoned us in an unsafe neighborho­od two hours from our home. She has done it twice before, and I have yet to hear an apology from her for dumping us on the curb.

Luckily, my son was able to come and retrieve us. Most people would have cut her off the first time she pulled this stunt, but I’m a “three-strikes-you’re-out” kind of person. I have given my mother many opportunit­ies to apologize for her behavior, but she refuses to acknowledg­e her own wrongdoing.

I have decided this is the last time this will happen to me. I no longer speak to her and won’t allow my daughter to go anywhere with her for fear she will be dumped somewhere unsafe. Was cutting her off a reasonable response?

— Thumbin’ for a Ride

Dear Thumbin’: Your mother appears to have a short fuse and poor judgment. Is cutting her off a reasonable response? I think so. Dumping someone in an unsafe neighborho­od could get the person killed, something we see all too often in the media. If you ever decide to relent, however, and go anywhere with her, make sure you are the one behind the wheel.

It is time for you to grow up and accept responsibi­lity for the situation you are in right now.

Dear Abby: My family and I moved to Iowa when I was in high school to be closer to the other side of the family. Because we had lived in California, we didn’t interact much with our Iowa family. So now, even though we have been back in Iowa for the last eight years, they still forget our birthdays and don’t include us in family get-togethers. How should I deal with this situation? — Excluded in the Hawkeye


Dear Excluded: It appears you’re being punished for the “sins” of your parents. (Could there have been some friction with the Iowa relatives that caused the move to California?) All you can do is talk to them and see if you can improve the situation. Consider inviting them to your family gettogethe­rs and you may get a positive response.

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