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Playful name-calling isn’t fun

- Dear Abby Columnist Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

DEAR ABBY » My girlfriend and I call each other horrible, disparagin­g names as a form of “love.” Recently, I asked her to stop calling me names like that because Dear Abby it was fun at first, but now not so much. For me, it was just too negative.

DEAR NO D-A » Jokes can get old and stale, and the name-calling stopped being cute or fun for you a while ago. People who love each other are sensitive to the other person’s feelings and don’t do what your girlfriend is doing. If she persists, it may be time to step back and reevaluate this relationsh­ip because her “just being herself” WILL become a turnoff.

DEAR ABBY » My husband of 34 years has really bad table manners. He smacks when he chews, makes gulping noises when he drinks liquids and stuffs huge amounts of food in his mouth. He once swallowed a whole hard-boiled egg all at once and almost choked. It’s gross.

I love him, but his lack of manners is embarrassi­ng, especially when we are invited out or are over at a friend’s house. What can I do? — Rolling My Eyes in Tennessee

DEAR ROLLING » Have you talked to him about this? If you have, sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words. Hand him a mirror or record a video of him eating so he can see for himself how unappealin­g he looks when he does this. If that doesn’t persuade him to slow down and take smaller bites, consider putting less food on his plate before serving it. I can’t guarantee this will work, but it’s worth a try.

P.S. A whole egg? OUCH!

DEAR ABBY » After recently having gone through a divorce, my brother has now decided to start a family. He claims he loves her, but I’m afraid she’s taking advantage of him. They are both in their mid-30s and blinded by lust. They plan on marrying “maybe a year from now.”

I don’t know what to think. On the one hand, I’m happy he has moved on and found a new life. On the other hand, I’m afraid for him, knowing he’s vulnerable. How do I cope? — Bewildered Sis in Vermont

DEAR SIS » Your brother is talking about getting married a year from now. Unless he’s putting the cart before the horse by starting a family before the wedding, he seems to be handling things quite well and not rushing into a commitment he can’t get out of. Calm yourself. Let this play out and get to know his girlfriend. If you do, you may find you like her.

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