I have been in college for almost two years now, and I still don’t know what I want to do.
My advisor keeps pushing me to declare a major, but I am so confused as to what to pick. I know I want nothing to do with math or foreign language, but other than that, so many of the available majors sound interesting. How did you decide what to major in and what you wanted to do as a career? Confused in College Dear Confused,
I am laughing out loud as I write this reply (not at you, by the way). The irony is that I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, so I’m thinking I may never grow up, even if I live to be ninety! I feel like my career choices are pretty fluid, kind of go with the flow, but they are all related to helping others and the experiences I collect just build a more solid foundation for whatever I do.
As for deciding a major, I had always been interested in psychology but during my senior year of high school became quite passionate about art. I decided to be an art major my first year of college before switching to psychology. I loved being an art major, but I decided that I could do art as a hobby and focus on psychology as a career. So in my case, trial and error worked for me.
To help you narrow it down, start a list of what types of fields really interest you and in which classes you have excelled. If you are about two years into college, you have taken a variety of core classes. Use those experiences to see what would potentially best fit your personality. Also, there should be a career counselor on your campus that can give you a test to see what field may be best for you based on your answers. These tests can be very helpful in matching personality and skill set to a narrowed field of occupations. Jody
I work in IT and am not really experienced with the female species, but a new girl started working in our department and I can’t stop thinking about her. I usually hang out with friends on the weekend, typically just playing video games and drinking an occasional beer, but all I want to do is ask her out. Here’s the problem, or should I say problems? I don’t know how to ask her out and if she’ll even say yes, and then I don’t know where I would take her if she does say yes. I’m guessing beer and video games aren’t all that romantic for a first date. What advice do you have for me? Not Quite Romeo Dear Future Romeo,
Notice I changed your name? I am confident that there is someone out there for you, maybe even the new girl at work. Inaction will be not knowing. You don’t have to be experienced in dating to find your true love. Just be yourself... anything else would be false advertising. Why not invite her to go to lunch with you and see if there is mutual interest? Just a casual get-out-of-the-office thing that doesn’t have to be a romantic date. If lunch goes well and you feel like a connection has been established, then you might suggest to her that there’s a movie you’ve been wanting to see and ask her if she’d like to join you Friday night. After the movie, you could take her to grab a bite to eat so you can get to know her better. Take things slowly and see how the relationship develops. If it turns romantic, write me back and let me know. I can give you some romantic date ideas! If it doesn’t, see the silver lining in that you have made a new friendship with someone who could possibly give you some insight into the uncharted territory of the female species! Jody