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Dear Jody,

I have been in col­lege for al­most two years now, and I still don’t know what I want to do.

My ad­vi­sor keeps push­ing me to de­clare a ma­jor, but I am so con­fused as to what to pick. I know I want noth­ing to do with math or for­eign lan­guage, but other than that, so many of the avail­able ma­jors sound in­ter­est­ing. How did you de­cide what to ma­jor in and what you wanted to do as a ca­reer? Con­fused in Col­lege Dear Con­fused,

I am laugh­ing out loud as I write this re­ply (not at you, by the way). The irony is that I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, so I’m think­ing I may never grow up, even if I live to be ninety! I feel like my ca­reer choices are pretty fluid, kind of go with the flow, but they are all re­lated to help­ing oth­ers and the ex­pe­ri­ences I col­lect just build a more solid foun­da­tion for what­ever I do.

As for de­cid­ing a ma­jor, I had al­ways been in­ter­ested in psy­chol­ogy but dur­ing my se­nior year of high school be­came quite pas­sion­ate about art. I de­cided to be an art ma­jor my first year of col­lege be­fore switch­ing to psy­chol­ogy. I loved be­ing an art ma­jor, but I de­cided that I could do art as a hobby and fo­cus on psy­chol­ogy as a ca­reer. So in my case, trial and er­ror worked for me.

To help you nar­row it down, start a list of what types of fields re­ally in­ter­est you and in which classes you have ex­celled. If you are about two years into col­lege, you have taken a va­ri­ety of core classes. Use those ex­pe­ri­ences to see what would po­ten­tially best fit your per­son­al­ity. Also, there should be a ca­reer coun­selor on your cam­pus that can give you a test to see what field may be best for you based on your an­swers. These tests can be very help­ful in match­ing per­son­al­ity and skill set to a nar­rowed field of oc­cu­pa­tions. Jody

Dear Jody,

I work in IT and am not re­ally ex­pe­ri­enced with the fe­male species, but a new girl started work­ing in our de­part­ment and I can’t stop think­ing about her. I usu­ally hang out with friends on the week­end, typ­i­cally just play­ing video games and drink­ing an oc­ca­sional beer, but all I want to do is ask her out. Here’s the prob­lem, or should I say prob­lems? I don’t know how to ask her out and if she’ll even say yes, and then I don’t know where I would take her if she does say yes. I’m guess­ing beer and video games aren’t all that ro­man­tic for a first date. What ad­vice do you have for me? Not Quite Romeo Dear Fu­ture Romeo,

No­tice I changed your name? I am con­fi­dent that there is some­one out there for you, maybe even the new girl at work. In­ac­tion will be not know­ing. You don’t have to be ex­pe­ri­enced in dat­ing to find your true love. Just be your­self... any­thing else would be false ad­ver­tis­ing. Why not in­vite her to go to lunch with you and see if there is mu­tual in­ter­est? Just a ca­sual get-out-of-the-of­fice thing that doesn’t have to be a ro­man­tic date. If lunch goes well and you feel like a con­nec­tion has been es­tab­lished, then you might sug­gest to her that there’s a movie you’ve been want­ing to see and ask her if she’d like to join you Fri­day night. Af­ter the movie, you could take her to grab a bite to eat so you can get to know her bet­ter. Take things slowly and see how the re­la­tion­ship de­vel­ops. If it turns ro­man­tic, write me back and let me know. I can give you some ro­man­tic date ideas! If it doesn’t, see the sil­ver lin­ing in that you have made a new friend­ship with some­one who could pos­si­bly give you some in­sight into the un­charted ter­ri­tory of the fe­male species! Jody

Jody Reed

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