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In my last ar­ti­cle you learned that de­pres­sion and anx­i­ety come from two dif­fer­ent places and have dif­fer­ent af­fects on us as a whole. We dis­cov­ered that de­pres­sion comes from your past. It is that de­feated feel­ing that leaves us with no mo­ti­va­tion, en­ergy or de­sire to do any­thing. Af­ter all, the past is the past, we can­not go back and change it. Thus, it can leave us feel­ing de­feated. How­ever, re­mem­ber, we have the ul­ti­mate choice to use that past to make us stronger bet­ter peo­ple. That same past that may haunt us, also em­pow­ers us to be bet­ter for our­selves and oth­ers.

Now, let’s take a look at anx­i­ety and where it orig­i­nates. Anx­i­ety comes from the fu­ture and our con­cerns about it, our goals, plans etc. How will we get there, what about all of the road blocks, can we ac­tu­ally ac­com­plish it, and will we be okay? Anx­i­ety is that over­whelm­ing feel­ing or ul­ti­mate con­cern of, what is go­ing to hap­pen to me and will I be okay? It is that never end­ing men­tal storm that does not seem to let up or give us a break. As a re­sult, we strug­gle to sleep, fo­cus and tend to put things off, there­fore, cre­at­ing even more anx­i­ety. This can af­fect us as we strug­gle so­cially and try to avoid some or any out­side so­cial­iza­tion at all. The very thought of get­ting out and around oth­ers can be de­bil­i­tat­ing. Some­times, caus­ing us to avoid even our clos­est fam­ily and friends. Just as de­pres- sion wants to keep us se­cluded, so does anx­i­ety. It causes us to ques­tion ev­ery­thing we do or say, leav­ing us feel­ing in­se­cure and even in­ad­e­quate. This leads us to the ques­tion, “can anx­i­ety be treated?” First, it is im­por­tant to un­der­stand the cause, the con­cerns and rea­sons we may be deal­ing with anx­i­ety. Is it chem­i­cal, trauma in­duced, a fear, or can it be a de­fi­ciency of some sort? Once de­ter­mined, it is eas­ier to move for­ward with treat­ment. Keep in mind, there are many forms of anx­i­ety, for ex­am­ple, ob­ses­sive com­pul­sive disor­ders, so­cial anx­i­ety, post trau­matic stress, pho­bias and oth­ers. Any­one who has had to deal with a panic at­tack or anx­i­ety at­tack is all too fa­mil­iar with how de­bil­i­tat­ing it is both emo­tion­ally and phys­i­cally.

It is with­out doubt, in that mo­ment, all con­sum­ing.

What are some things we can do to help calm the storm? First, re­al­ize what is hap­pen­ing and that you can in­deed con­trol this at­tack. If pos­si­ble, re­move your­self from the sit­u­a­tion and go some­where you can be alone and re­fo­cus. Con­nect with your breath­ing, close your eyes and put all of your at­ten­tion on ev­ery breath. Breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth, slow and cleans­ing breaths. Keep­ing your eyes closed, con­tinue this un­til you can re­gain some calm and un­der­stand­ing of the sit­u­a­tion. In ad­di­tion, mu­sic is known to be very ther­a­peu­tic, it ac­tu­ally does help us to re­lax. I am a firm be­liever of med­i­ta­tion, connecting to your­self, emo­tion­ally, phys­i­cally and spir­i­tu­ally. Yoga is also a great source of re­lax­ation and stress re­lief. It is im­per­a­tive to take that neg­a­tive, rest­less en­ergy and ap­ply it to­wards some­thing pos­i­tive and healthy. Con­sider go­ing to the gym, cy­cling, run­ning, cre­at­ing art or even writ­ing. I rec­om­mend to all of my clients that they im­me­di­ately be­gin jour­nal­ing. Not only dur­ing times of high anx­i­ety, but be­fore bed, es­pe­cially. is im­por­tant to take the con­cern and worry out of our head and put it on pa­per. Quite of­ten, once on pa­per, things don’t seem to be as scary or over­whelm­ing. Also, put to­gether a healthy, calm­ing, night­time rou­tine in or­der to help aid in a good night sleep. A bub­ble bath with es­sen­tial oils, or a night time tea that pro­motes calm and rest. Oils or tea’s to con­sider may in­clude but are not limited to, laven­der, chamomile, va­le­rian, pas­sion­flower, etc. I en­cour­age a few min­utes of med­i­ta­tion as well. Fi­nally, in­stead of fo­cus­ing on the big goal, cre­ate small mile­stones along the way. Cel­e­brate each of those smaller goals as they are reached. Af­ter all, with­out ac­com­plish­ing the smaller goals, the large ones would not be at­tain­able. Cel­e­brate the whole process. Also, as you set each small goal, fo­cus on any and all road blocks that may pre­vent you from reach­ing this goal. Then, pre­de­ter­mine the so­lu­tion for each road block, this way, once there, you have al­ready fixed it and planned for it. There­fore, mak­ing the goal eas­ier to at­tain and caus­ing less stress and anx­i­ety along the way. Do not al­low road blocks to stop you from reach­ing your goals! There are al­ways sev­eral paths to a des­ti­na­tion. You are big­ger than your fears and your anx­i­ety.

If you have any ques­tions or con­cerns re­gard­ing de­pres­sion or anx­i­ety that you or some­one you know may me strug­gling with, please reach out. Be blessed and be a bless­ing! It is time to ‘OWN YOUR GREAT­NESS’ Deb­bie War­ren Own Your Great­ness Life Coach­ing 936 577 5679 Owny­our­gr8t­ Face­book @Owny­our­gr8t­ness

Deb­bie War­ren

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