Setting goals..seems simple enough. This is a very popular topic between my clients and I. Understand, the difficulty does not lie in setting the goal itself, but in staying focused and on track, in order to reach our goal. First let me say this, there are many pathways that may lead us to our destination. Once we understand this, we can begin the necessary work to get there.
Where to begin? I cannot express enough how important it is to create a plan, a map per say, in order to reach your goal. Pre-plan for unexpected roadblocks. Ask yourself, ”what are some things that may prevent me from reaching my goal?”
Identify and name those road blocks? Next, how can we pre-plan for what to do, if and when those road blocks show up? The answer is in the question, we pre-plan what we will do. We create a solution to every road block we foresee on the way to our goal. This way, we are best prepared to handle each one as it arises. For example, one of your initial roadblocks may have been finances?
However, your solution to removing that problem was already resolved. You knew it would likely be a problem along the way, so you prepared the solution while constructing the map to your goal. You already decided to pick up some overtime to cover these possible expenses. Remember, it is not always how we get there that is important, just that we get there. Do not allow road blocks to prevent you from your goal. This is one of the primary reasons we give up those goals. We feel defeated and overwhelmed by these challenges along the way. Dealing with them one at a time, pre-planning the solution, we have already conquered and resolved them. Thus, the feeling to give up is not so heightened, rather, we become empowered.
Relative to these obstacles, let’s address one of the biggest struggles along the way, reasons versus excuses. Is there a difference? Are we actually clear on which one we are using at the time? Or, are we aware, but in denial? We are all guilty of using excuses as reasons for not doing things. What is the difference between the two? A reason is something very clearly in our way. This is why we call it a roadblock. They actually prevent us from moving forward and bring our task to a halt. Whereas , an excuse is just that, something we allow to be a roadblock. For example, a landslide in the road is a reason for not having the ability to continue on that road. On the other hand, a rock that you don’t want to take the time to step over or move, is an excuse. Keep in mind, whether an excuse or reason, it does not need to keep us from attaining our goal. This is exactly why we need to put a map or a plan together to reach our goals. We will use less excuses and the reasons/roadblocks will already have solutions. Remember that landslide in the road? You knew it could be there due to bad weather the week before so you made the decision to take a different route. Remember, it does not matter how you get there.
Finally, don’t look down the long road at your distant goal, as this can be very overwhelming and disappointing. Instead, create milestones along the way and focus on those, one at a time. Before you know it, you will be at your goal. Also, remember to celebrate along the way. Each milestone is just as important as reaching the goal will be. After all, how could we reach our goal without milestones? Each one is an acknowledgment of a success, bringing you closer to the end result, your final step, and your goal. With that said, celebrate each one, as each one is a big accomplishment.
Be strong, be brave, you ARE more than capable! Everything you have experienced has led you to this moment. You have every tool you need to be successful.
Please feel free to contact me if you need any help or support moving forward with your goals. We are stronger when we have a support system. If you or anyone you know is suffering from anxiety or depression, remember, no one should ever suffer alone. Feel free to reach out, I would love to help in any way I can. Be blessed and be a blessing to someone. Debbie Warren Phone: 936 577 5679 Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Facebook: @ownyourgr8tness