SELF CARE WITH HEATHER
This Year, Let's Live in the Now
What's your greatest aspiration for the small amount of time you have on this earth? For some of us, it's bagging our dream job. Some of us want nothing more than to raise kind and compassionate children; some of us want to find true love; and some of us desire to do whatever we can to change this tumultuous world. Whatever your desires are, let them be grand and extravagant, but also let them be things we can work on as we pass through the end of 2018 and look ahead to what 2019 has in store.
The promise of a new year is alluring in that it offers us the promise of a somewhat fresh slate. We get to celebrate the passage of time, one of the biggest inevitabilities in our life, and send off the previous year with a bang! Why then, do we so often set the tone for our new year by professing our New Year's Resolutions to be centered around weight loss?
Diet Culture wants us to pledge every January that we're going to lose a certain amount of pounds. It wants us to sign up for gym memberships, pay for personal trainers, buy diet shakes and talk about things like body goals, calories, regimens, and carbohydrates. The worst part about Diet Culture is that it's such a pervasive part of our society. Just about everyone will pledge to lose some amount of weight this January, but don't you think it's about time you break free and stop perpetuating this cycle of misery and self- loathing?
The first year my resolution wasn't focused on weight loss, it was simple enough but endlessly complicated and potentially i mpossible. I resolved to stop hating myself. It was a long year full of affirmations, journaling, therapy and reflection, but it was the first resolution I actually stuck to, and the first year of the rest of my life. THIS is my “After” body, this body that has not changed in weight, but has changed in confidence and stature, this body that has grown in wisdom and in strength.
This year, let your resolution break the mold and set a precedent for those around you. Our greatest aspirations for 2019 should not be to fit into a smaller size, or to see a certain number on a scale. Instead of losing weight, let's focus on losing our insecurities. Let's reflect on what we learned in 2018 and pledge to do better for ourselves with this new blank slate. Let's live in the now and love the skin we have rather than fantasize about what we could look like at some later date. Happy New You! ◆