Dear Abby: I moved to town not long before the pandemic and don’t have many close friends here. One of my best friends is a co-worker, “Ronna,” whom I love dearly.
Ronna has had an extremely rough past, including an extensive history of parental abuse that has left her thinskinned and suspicious of authority figures. Because of this, she’s constantly butting heads with ourmanagement team and confronting them about perceived slights.
While some of the points shemakes are reasonable, many are taken too personally or blown way out of proportion, and she tends to act very dramatic/livid about it. I’mlooking to move up in the company, and I’mtorn between loyalty to my friend and the need to remain on good terms with our higher-ups.
I’malso worried that my friendliness withmanagement will lead to Ronna resenting or distrusting me. How can I safely navigate? — IN THE MIDDLE IN COLORADO
Dear In The Middle: Do not involve yourself in Ronna’s problems on the job. If you do, they will spill over onto you. Maintain your personal relationship with her away from the office, while networking and trying to widen your circle of friends.
From what you have written, I doubt that Ronna will be working for your employermuch longer. Workers who react in a “very dramatic/livid” manner are usually laid off because their behavior is unprofessional and disruptive.
Dear Abby: I amhaving problems withmy baby dad helping me with our 2-year-old daughter. I don’t like the idea of putting him on child support. I have tried counseling with him. In addition to asking him to step up, I have tried giving him lists of what our daughter needs, and he still isn’t helping. Instead he’s asking me to help with his bills.
I don’t know what to do. I really don’t want to go after child support since he now has two jobs. I need his help, but I don’t know how to get him to contribute. Any ideas? — STRUGGLINGMOMIN OHIO
DearMom: You have tried asking, you have tried counseling. Theonly option left to convince him to step up to the plate and fulfill his obligations as a father is to contact Child Support Services and ask for help.