Dear Abby: Recently, I kindly and lovingly gavemy daughter some feedback on how she berates her husband in front of my 8-year-old grandson. I told her I didn’t want him to grow up thinking that’s how we treat the people we love. Tomake a long story short, she said that if I wanted to estrange myself from her, I had succeeded. I remained calm and loving and told her she could use the feedback if it was helpful, or ignore it if it wasn’t. She has now blocked me!
My daughter has had no compunction over the years about informingme aboutmy shortcomings, but went into a rage when I spoke about her behavior. Although it breaks my heart that my daughter has cut me out of her life, my real concern is losing contact with my grandson.
Fortunately, my son-in-law is still relaying messages to him, but what about when I want to visit my grandson? I have always stayed withmy daughter and her family. — HEARTBROKEN IN ANOTHER STATE
Dear Heartbroken: Youmay have hit the nail on the head, but youmust have also struck a nerve for your daughter to have reacted so strongly. Staying with hermay be off the table until she cools off, but visits with your grandsonmay still be possible if her husband can arrange it. Not knowing your son-in-law, I can only guess that it may be just amatter of time until he tires of your daughter’s verbal abuse and exits the marriage, but if they separate, it maymake access to your grandchild easier for you.
Dear Readers: Tomorrow is Thanksgiving, and noThanksgiving would be complete without sharing the traditional prayer penned bymy dear late mother:
Oh, Heavenly Father,
We thank Thee for food and remember the hungry.
We thank Thee for health and remember the sick.
We thank Thee for friends and remember the friendless.
We thank Thee for freedom and remember the enslaved.
May these remembrances stir us to service,
ThatThy gifts to usmay be used for others.
Have a safe, happy and socially distanced celebration, everyone! — LOVE, ABBY