Mother thinks that teen daughter is missing out by dating over the phone

Dear Abby: I am a 17year-old girl who has been in a long-distance relationship for two years. We’re still in high school and actively involved in sports and extracurricular activities. During the fall months I cheer, and in the winter months he plays basketball. Our schedules only really allow for texting and FaceTiming rather than going out.

Although our time is spent communicating on the phone, I feel we have a strong connection, and I am devoted to him. However, my mom is concerned “because I’m not dating and taking advantage of opportunities that could come with dating someone closer.” She criticizes him nonstop and thinks he’s making excuses and avoiding a commitment. accept this. I would love to hear your advice.

— Far, But Close, In Michigan

Dear F. But C.: You may feel that this young man is “The One”, but your mother has a point. Please listen to her. Rather than sit home every night because you are devoted only to him, you should socialize and develop nonromantic relationships. It wouldn’t be betraying him. Most young people go out in groups, and that’s what you should be doing. This may be what your mother is trying to convey.

Also, you and this young man have years before you’ll be in a position to formalize your relationship. While you are doing that, both of you will meet new people.