Readers diagnose possible causes for mom’s loss of interest in husband

Dear Abby: “Jumbled in Ohio” (Aug. 10) indicated that her lack of interest in her husband started about a year after the birth of her second child. You recommended counseling, which is needed, but you should also have recommended she talk to a medical doctor, especially one who specializes in hormone imbalance. I’ve been there! Luckily, with the help of both doctors, I was able to regain my interest in sex and once again enjoy my husband’s attention.

Don’t pass up on a good partner. The grass is not greener on the other side. My husband and I will celebrate our 50th anniversary in 2020. I thank God every day for the help I received. — Grateful in the South

Dear Grateful: Thank you for your comments, which were echoed by other readers who recommended “Jumbled” see her OB-GYN and look into whether the birth control pills could also be a factor for the change in her feelings. Read on:

Dear Abby: “Jumbled” should see her gynecologist. Her hormones may be out of whack. It happened to me. My doctor gave me a low-dose testosterone prescription, which made all the difference in the world. — Yvonne in California

Dear Abby: I liked that you highlighted the importance of considering the onset of “Jumbled’s” feelings about her marriage — the all-important “Why now?” question. Perhaps the young mother, with her 3- and 5-year-old children, is chronically fatigued or even depressed because of the incessant demands of caring for them. Even mild depression can skew one’s outlook on everything, including one’s marriage.

— Denise in San Diego