Relationship founders after reader shows girlfriend an offensive video

Dear Abby: A casual friend sent me a video of a comic doing a very lewd and vulgar routine. I was offended by it and forwarded it to my girlfriend to find out what she thought about it. She got very upset and told me I was being disrespectful to her by even passing it on to her. I should add that we met online and have been talking on the phone with each other for only a month during this shelterin-place time.

This incident nearly ended our new relationship. Was I wrong to send her the video? And what should I do no?

— No Laughing

Matter

Dear No Laughing: Before sending the video, you should have warned your new girlfriend that it was vulgar and asked if she wanted to see it, which would have given her the opportunity to refuse.

What you should do now is apologize for having offended her and tell her how much you value your relationship with her. Then cross your fingers that she still feels the same.

Dear Abby: My wife had some health issues over the last four years and gained 40 pounds. She keeps saying she wants to lose the weight, but doesn’t do anything about it. Her blood pressure is high, so she needs to do it.

When I try to bring it up, she gets mad and always mentions the health issues. But those issues are now totally behind her. What can I do or say to get her going again?

— Full of Concern

in New Jersey

Dear Full: Tell your wife you don’t mean to come across as a nag, but you are worried because of her blood pressure issue.

She is far from the only person who procrastinates when faced with changing one’s lifestyle.