Reader wants his sister to stop asking his guests about religion

Dear Abby: I have a much older sister who has become very religious. Most of her life decisions are based on her faith, so conversations tend to develop into faith-oriented topics and justifications. I don’t initiate these conversations, and I make a genuine effort to understand her perspective.my problem is, anytime I bring a friend or date to a family function, she drags them off to the side and begins to question and discuss the importance of faith. Since religion is a widely varied and highly sensitive topic, this can sometimes be uncomfortable. I recently asked her to stop doing it, and I haven’t heard from her since. How can I explain healthy boundaries to her?

— Younger Brother in Georgia

Dear Younger Brother: I agree that what she’s doing can come across as obnoxious. Because you can’t control what she says or does, you may have to stop bringing friends or dates to family functions where you know she’ll be present. Otherwise, warn them in advance so they can avoid being cornered or get away from her.

Dear Abby: I am a 50-year-old male. When I interact with a woman whose name I don’t know, I address her as “Dear.” Surprisingly, many of them respond in a negative way, regardless of age. Is it wrong to call someone “Dear”? And if so, what should I call them if I don’t know their name?

— Unsure in Iowa

Dear Unsure: The women may respond the way they do because they consider being called “Dear” by a stranger to be overly familiar or even condescending. (Other titles to avoid would be “Honey” and “Young Lady,” if the woman appears to be past the age of 30.) Be safe — and respectful — by addressing them as Miss or Ma’am.