Man resorts to hiding snacks when hungry family drops in
DEAR ABBY » My wife’s family drops by our home several times a week, usually unannounced. I don’t mind them dropping in, but what does bother me is they bring their kids and expect us to feed them during the visits. It has gotten to the point that I hide our snacks and beverages in the bedroom because if I leave them in the cupboard, they disappear. They often end up eating the leftovers I had planned to be my lunch for the next day.
I have talked with my wife several times about this situation. She agrees with me, but she says there’s nothing she can do about it. I wasn’t brought up that way. I would never think of going to someone’s home, opening up cupboards and helping myself to food without an invitation. Also, I’m retired and on a fixed income. Am I overreacting, and must I just keep my mouth shut? — Frustrated in the West
DEAR FRUSTRATED » This is your wife’s family, and she is the one who should deal with this. All she has to say is she would appreciate it if her relatives ASK when they’d like some food or drinks because their foraging through your cupboards has created a problem for the two of you.
DEAR ABBY » For the past few years I have encountered a problem with cashiers in stores. I pay with cash and generally have change coming back to me. When the cashiers return my change, they hand it back in one big wad along with the receipt. When this happens, I must stop, lay everything down on the counter and separate the different denominations. Then I have to place the different bills into my wallet.
I have tried asking them to place the receipt into the bag, but they usually don’t listen. Also, some of them reach for the next customer while I’m still putting my change away. It is so frustrating! Is there something I can do differently?
— Bothered in Marshall, Texas
DEAR BOTHERED » I have two suggestions. The first is to discuss your concerns with the store manager. The second is to shop elsewhere.
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