Woman’s focus on fitness hard for friend to bear

DEAR ABBY » I’ve been friends with “Lorraine” for 30 years. Actually, the friendship is kind of one-sided because she bugs the hell out of me.

She’s a superskinny health nut who constantly posts health advice and “uplifting” mantras on social media. Her Instagram feed is filled with pictures of her bland-looking vegan food or running 5Ks in midriff tops so we can all see her sixpack abs.

Dining with her is embarrassing because she grills the waiters on how the food is prepared, even in vegan restaurants that list all ingredients. She comes off — to me, anyway — as thinking she has every facet of life figured out.

I’m not perfect (I know I’m lazy, impatient and drink too much), but I don’t portray myself as otherwise. My husband, a nicer person than I am, doesn’t understand my resentment of Lorraine and keeps reminding me how much she loves me. She does.

By the way, I don’t think I’m jealous of her because I’m very happy in my marriage and feel that I am more attractive than she is. Must I stay friends with Lorraine?

DEAR CANCELING » It appears you have a love/ hate relationship with Lorraine. Nothing is wrong with you, and no law says you must maintain a friendship with her.

The way to end your relationship with her would be to make yourself less available when she calls or wants to get together. If she asks you why, explain that you have fewer of the same interests than you used to, while omitting the part about her six-pack abs.

Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.