Beau maintains presence on multiple dating sites

DEAR ABBY » I am a widowed woman who met a gentleman online two years ago. We met in person and get along really great. Everything seems perfect, but my girlfriends keep telling me they see his profile on numerous dating sites. When I asked him about it, he said he had closed the accounts. Well, close friends say they are concerned because he is on a lot of those sites even now.

What should I take away from this?

— Perplexed

in Florida

DEAR PERPLEXED » The first thing to pay attention to is that you don’t feel you can trust him at his word. Ask some of your vigilant girlfriends to reach out to him on some of those sites they see him on. If they receive a response, end the romance if what you want is an exclusive relationship.

DEAR ABBY » Our daughter is being married soon. She has invited our best friends of 30 years to her wedding, but she refuses to invite their adult daughter because she has treated her parents very disrespectfully throughout the years. I understand my daughter’s reasoning, but I told her I’m afraid we will lose their friendship if she does this. Our friends’ feelings get hurt very easily. How do we deal with this? — Conflicted Mama

in Texas

DEAR MAMA » If your friendship with this couple depends upon how your daughter treats her daughter, that relationship is already fragile. This is your daughter’s special day. I do not think she should be strong-armed into inviting someone because you’re afraid your friendship with this couple will end if her daughter isn’t included. Deal with this by not involving yourself.