San Diego Union-Tribune

I’M INCREDIBLY GRATEFUL FOR MY FOSTER MOM

- BY ROBERTO LOPEZ is a former foster youth, student and Guardian Scholar with Promises2K­ids. He is a resident of the College Area.

From a young age, I had little understand­ing of what family was. My environmen­t was influenced heavily by drugs and violence, so a sense of emptiness lingered throughout my childhood. It was unstable and I didn’t have anyone to look up to. Entering the foster care system was a blessing, because I don’t know how my life would have ended without the support of my community.

I had a different view of life as I entered foster care at the age of 9. By 17, I had attended eight schools and had been in 11 group homes, the A.B. & Jessie Polinsky Children’s Center and a foster home. My past has shaped who I am today because of each experience I endured. I learned from my mistakes and gained the strength to chase my goals. Going from a troubled kid to a college student is my biggest accomplish­ment and I thank those who have helped me throughout my journey.

I’m incredibly grateful for my foster mom MaryJo (whom I call “mom”) because she has always supported me. She encouraged me to fulfill my goals and continue my education. She always told me that “a degree is one thing that people can’t take away from you.” I reflect on this quote often because it motivates me to keep going. Her words always had a powerful impact on my life, and, in many ways, I found my identity from everything she has taught me. She inspires me tremendous­ly and has since the moment she entered my life. My mom is a huge reason I want to give back to my community because she is the hardest worker I know, and still manages to take care of others before herself. She reminds me that education is the path to where I want to be. Following my education has changed my life and allowed me to be part of Promises2K­ids. I am thankful for Promises2K­ids for seeing my potential and for the wonderful opportunit­ies through its Guardian Scholars program, including being part of its specialty groups, connecting with mentors, receiving job opportunit­ies and more. Through Guardian Scholars, I have built relationsh­ips with many individual­s, the kind of relationsh­ips I lacked growing up. Through LatinX, we discuss issues relevant to my identity and to my culture; Men’s Leadership Network has assisted me with resume building, mock interviews and more; and Advocates for Change has boosted my self-confidence in public speaking and allows me to educate the community about foster care and advocate for myself and other youth currently in foster care. Having the opportunit­y to interact with people who have a similar background reminds me that we can do anything we set our minds to; that we must be resilient.

Through Promises2K­ids, I was connected with two amazing mentors and two coaches. They offer endless support, deliver positive criticism and provide knowledgea­ble advice. Promises2K­ids has given me the support system I need as a student. My participat­ion with Promises2K­ids has allowed me to keep growing and not limit myself. I will be transferri­ng to San Diego State University this fall, and, because of the Guardian Scholars program, I feel more prepared to finish my education and obtain my bachelor’s degree in social work.

I recently began working with Lennar, one of the best constructi­on companies in the industry. Promises2K­ids provided me with access to a training program that led me to an amazing position as a customer service representa­tive. This opportunit­y has meant so much to me. It gives me hope and a second chance to build my future.

It is my dream to start my own nonprofit organizati­on and give back to the community that gave to me. I want to help others and be the person for them that I needed when I was younger. Contributi­ng to society in positive and useful ways is what I see myself doing upon graduating. I give all my gratitude to those who have supported and inspired me to want better for my life and future journey.

She inspires me. In many ways, I found my identity from everything she taught me.

Lopez

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