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- By Jeanne Phillips

Dear Abby: I am a shy, 30year-old woman. I stay at home with our 10-month-old, primarily because of our family’s financial situation.

I am gifted in the visual arts, but because I don’t have an art degree, I’m unable to pursue a profession­al job in the arts. Instead, I have been advertisin­g to teach private art lessons at home. One month in, I have one student. The past months have been lonely, and I am aching for friendship.

My husband doesn’t seem to understand this. We know one family, but we are not close. I am considerin­g offering free lessons to their kindergart­ner because it would not only help me to develop profession­ally but also give me some adult interactio­n, which I desperatel­y need.

Again, my husband doesn’t understand this, and doesn’t want me to teach this child for free. How can I make him see?

Unfulfille­d Artist in Pennsylvan­ia Dear Artist: Your husband appears to be unusually controllin­g. Have you told him that the reason you want to give the family free art lessons is so you can have some much-needed adult interactio­n? If you haven’t, you should, rather than keep silent.

He should not be isolating you the way he appears to be, which strikes me as worrisome. Is his motivation for keeping you in the house and away from others the money or something else?

I think you should try doing what you have in mind and see how it works out. And if there are other young mothers in your area who gather so their children can socialize, perhaps you could attend and make some friendship­s there.

If your husband continues to be as possessive as he appears to be, consider calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 for suggestion­s.

P.S. I encourage you to go for that degree as soon as you are financiall­y able.

To my Jewish readers: The eight days of Hanukkah begin at sundown. (So early this year!) Happy Hanukkah, everyone! A joyous Festival of Lights to all of us!

Write to Dear Abby at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069 or www.DearAbby.com. Universal Press Syndicate

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