San Francisco Chronicle - (Sunday)
Pasquale (Pat) Luigi Cosentino
Pasquale (Pat) Luigi Cosentino died at the age of 97, peacefully at home with his loved ones around him, on April 26, 2021. He died in San Francisco, the city that he loved and knew like the back of his hand; the city his parents emigrated to from Italy in the early 20th century; the city he was born in, worked in, married in and created a family in.
As a first generation Italian, Pasquale did not learn English until he went to grammar school. He had an aptitude for sports eg basketball and was always a very physically oriented man. The tight Italian community that existed in the Excelsior district at that time provided him with training in the trades. He displayed so much ability that one of his mentors who owned a hardware store wanted Pasquale to inherit it so Pat bought it (for a reduced price) and opened “Pat’s Hardware” on Mission Street in the Excelsior district.
Pasquale had an intense passion for the music of his time, particularly jazz and big bands. He pursued music everywhere, often jockeying to the front of the dance floor so he could watch and be entranced by the musicians. He and his friends frequently took the ferry to Oakland, where he said the best music was played. His record collection of this music could fill a room in a museum.
In 1956 Pat went to a wedding and was introduced by friends to Marilyn Gonzalez. In 1958 he married Marilyn at Epiphany Church in the same neighborhood he’d grown up in. Pasquale often said that he wanted 12 children because he loved to hear the pitterpatter of tiny footsteps. He and Marilyn had three children: Lisa (Brad), Angelo (Meghan) and Noelle (John). Angelo and Meghan gave him 2 grandchildren; Henry (19) and Charlotte (18).
Pasquale’s life/love has always been his family. He bought the house next door to his parents’ home, cared for them and lived there until they passed away and his children left home. He and Marilyn moved to Noe Valley and became small business owners (of rental property). Pasquale’s interest was always for his tenants and whatever hardships they endured which was an example of his kindness and care for others. He was the soul of his immediate family: emotionally solid and reliable, kind and accepting of those in his orbit. Pasquale could always be counted on, for support, help, understanding and love. He will be sorely missed.