I hate it when strangers ask me where I’m from

Dear Abby: I have lived in the U.S. for 40 years. My first 32 years were spent in Puerto Rico, so I speak with an accent. My problem is almost everyone I meet asks me where I’m from. I usually try to disguise my discomfort by jokingly asking them to guess. The truth is, I feel singled out as not belonging. My friends tell me I’m being too sensitive. Would it be impolite for me to point out that they’re asking for very personal information?

Accented in Georgia

Dear Accented: I think so. People are often curious when someone has an accent. I have a strong Midwestern accent, and people ask me where I’m from. They aren’t asking because they are nosy; they’re trying to be friendly. Many people in this country come from other places, and the more who come, the more often that question will be raised. Dear Abby: My four wonderful kids want to give their father and me a 50th wedding anniversary celebration next year. The problem is, everyone knows I do not like going to parties. My husband, who is outgoing, says I should let them do it for us if it will make them happy. He would probably enjoy it, but I’d rather do something with just the two of us — like see a Broadway show. What do you think?

Rose of Texas Dear Rose: A compromise might be the solution to your problem. Why not have a family celebration? And then go to New York for a “second honeymoon.” Dear Abby: I recently began dating a man who is kind, intelligent and fun. The only drawback I can see is that he keeps his fingernails long. I feel superficial confessing that something so seemingly petty is off-putting, but it is. Is it OK to make a request of a man regarding his physical appearance?

Put Off in Delaware Dear Put Off: I don’t think it would be rude to casually ask him why he keeps his fingernails long. You might also suggest that the next time you go for a manicure he come along.