WHAT CAN YOU DO TO REWIRE YOUR NEURAL PATHWAYS?

1. Just knowing your attachment style helps!

Imagine your partner comes home in a bad mood. You jump to the conclusion that you did something wrong, or think it means he or she doesn't love you anymore. But if you know your attachment style is driving your reaction and not the facts of the situation, you can give your brain a little breathing room, and choose a more appropriate response.

2. Talk to your partner about attachment styles.

When your partner is aware of your attachment issues, he or she can help you overcome them. If you tend to push people away and your partner feels you doing this, he or she can talk to you about it before it's too late to mend things.

3. The most important thing to know about childhood trauma is that its impact doesn't have to be permanent.

Studies show that while childhood emotional wounds may have changed your brain, your innate neuroplasticity means that you can change it again. Knowing your attachment style, patience with adjusting your maladaptive instincts, practice, and therapy can help you overcome your trauma and develop and maintain loving adult relationships. So, regardless of what we cultivated in the past, there is light at the end of the tunnel. *