LA TIMES CROSSWORD
ACROSS
1 Caught wind of 6 Helpless? 10 French friends 14 Get along 15 Rotten to the core 16 Fender flaw 17 Tap options? 19 Disney princess whose gown is adorned with snowflakes
20 “I’m so dumb!”
21 Lessen, as
pressure
23 Slumber party
wear, for short 25 Poker options? 28 Time-stamp
component
30 Like oyster
shooters
31 90° from sur 32 Start of many
long weekends 35 Academic figure 37 Flower options? 41 German automaker once owned by General Motors 42 Emotional
baggage
45 Hawk’s claw
49 __ Speedwagon 51 Upgrade a gravel
driveway, say 52 Mouth options? 56 SoCal airport 57 Big citrus
58 Lipstick mishap 60 Luminescence
61 Boxing options? 66 Forearm bone
67 Field of study 68 Huevos rancheros condiment
69 Overly inquisitive 70 Baking amt.
71 Fix, as text
DOWN
1 Scoffer’s laugh
2 Psychoanalysis
subject
3 Like one who can really draw a crowd?
4 Audition (for)
5 “Tree of Smoke”
novelist Johnson 6 Pie chart slice 7 Ab __: from the
beginning 8 Short, for short 9 Of yesteryear 10 “__ Fideles”
11 Wild brawls 12 Slight
13 Rice, in some
cuisine
18 “I’m so dumb!” 22 Mortal lover of Aphrodite and Persephone
23 Common email
attachment
24 Preserves
preserver
26 Imitates a
penguin 27 Wowed
29 Part of a 35-Across’s address 33 Lacking a
musical key 34 Terrier’s bark 36 “Midsommar”
filmmaker Aster 38 Unhip type 39 Uncanny ability,
for short
40 Job for an actor playing identical twins, say 43 “Hadestown” Tony nominee Noblezada 2/29/24 Wednesday’s Puzzle Solved 44 Possible reason
for an R rating 45 1986 movie partly filmed at San Diego’s Air Station Miramar 46 “The Trials of __”: Rick Riordan series based on Greek myths 47 Small citrus
48 Like freeway
ramps 50 “Nice burn!”
53 Greet silently 54 Actress
Thurman
55 On edge
59 “Ferrari” actor
Driver 62 Scepter top 63 Director
Anderson
64 Gp. featured in
45-Down
65 Skosh
Dear Abby: My niece, who is engaged, is blossoming into a full-fledged bridezilla. She has upset her mother so deeply that she may not attend the wedding. The bride is dictating what her guests are to wear, in addition to telling her mother what she is to wear that day. She has also ordered my sister to get hair extensions and have her makeup professionally done.
The list goes on and on. She brought her girlfriends to a bridal shop and, without asking about a budget, tried on gown after gown with no regard to cost. She fell in love with one that is beyond her mother’s budget and demanded, “This is my dress!” My sister, wanting to avoid a scene, paid for it.
My sister has been excluded from all the wedding planning. The bride is deferring to her father and stepmother, who are paying for most of the wedding. If anyone offers a suggestion or asks a question, it is met with hostility. How do we handle this? My sister feels defeated and is deeply hurt by her daughter’s actions.
– Aunt of a Monster
Dear Aunt: This production (I hesitate to call it a wedding) has gone so far out of control that there is nothing you or your sister can do about it. Her chance to intervene and inject some sobriety vanished the moment she paid for the bridal gown she couldn’t afford.
If your sister can’t afford hair extensions and a professional makeup job for her daughter’s special day, she should consider coming just as she is and forgo being part of the wedding. She should also thank her higher power that she isn’t being ordered to fly to Bermuda or Bali in order to participate.
Dear Abby: My wife has been neglectful and hateful toward me ever since I was verbally abusive more than four years ago. I had fallen into a serious substance addiction around the same time, but I have been clean for more than a year. The addiction was another reason she is hateful toward me and holds a grudge.
I understand how addiction affects loved ones and that our relationship is probably over. My problem is, we have two very young children and split the mortgage and all other bills 50-50. I cannot afford to live on my own. She can’t afford to live alone, either. I can’t imagine trying to pay child support as well as rent somewhere else, even if I got another full-time job.
I have done everything I can to make amends, but there is no hope. We tried counseling. It didn’t help. I don’t want to abandon the kids, but I don’t know what to do. Is there any hope at all?
– Low in Ohio
Dear Low: So the abused has become the abuser. Unless your wife is willing to bury the hatchet (somewhere other than in you) and agree to marriage counseling with a different therapist, I don’t think there is hope for the two of you. Ask her if, for the sake of the kids, she is willing to TRY. But if she refuses, consult an attorney about separating as amicably as possible.