ARE FAM­I­LIES JUST TRY­ING TO DO TOO MUCH THESE DAYS?

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I do think a lot of fam­i­lies are try­ing to do too much. In my fam­ily, I told my kids they could have one ex­tracur­ric­u­lar ac­tiv­ity at a time. As they got older and there was op­por­tu­nity for car­pool­ing, they could add to that. Although I think or­ga­nized sports and ac­tiv­i­ties are very good, I also think they can sti­fle cre­ativ­ity. In gen­eral, kids don’t learn how to work out stuff on their own.

I think some­thing needs to be said about sched­ule clut­ter— our per­ceived need to over­book our kids’ lives with events and ac­tiv­i­ties be­cause we want them to be well- rounded hu­man be­ings. If you have so much go­ing on that you feel you’re liv­ing minute- by- minute and you’re wor­ry­ing about miss­ing en­gage­ments, it might be time to think about scal­ing back some ac­tiv­i­ties.

Par­ents are try­ing so hard to be good par­ents; that’s where the over­book­ing comes in. Your child does not have to be in an or­ga­nized ac­tiv­ity ev­ery sin­gle night and ev­ery sin­gle week­end. This is part of where I see the stress oc­cur­ring. If you want to keep that kind of ac­tiv­ity sched­ule, you have to del­e­gate or hire out the rest of the stuff that needs to get done around the house. For some crazy rea­son, there is this un­writ­ten rule that the fe­male is sup­posed to be do­ing all the house­hold stuff, but every­one should be help­ing out.

Talk to your chil­dren about their ac­tiv­i­ties. Just be­cause they’re en­rolled in dance class doesn’t mean they want to be there. Talk to them and limit them to the ac­tiv­i­ties that in­ter­est them most.

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