Man wonders if he can rival GF’s phone

Dear Amy: I am a 57-year-old man dating a 49-year-old woman. We’ve been together for over a year.

She is beautiful, smart, sexy and tons of fun. However, she never puts her phone down.

No matter what we are doing or where we are, she is texting and answering texts from her teenage children. This goes on, no matter how serious or inconsequential the issue is.

She will sit in a dark movie theater and text her son about where his shoes are, or answer questions that could definitely wait until she isn’t busy.

Her reply is that she has three kids and has to be available to them always, no matter what.

She says I am oldfashioned and that this is normal behavior. Is it? — Old-fashioned Guy

Dear Old-fashioned: Let’s grant your gal her obsession with her teenage kids’ shoes. If she is an involved mom and not at home because she is with you, then I’d say yes — she should get a pass to communicate with them, even though she seems to do so to a ridiculous degree. (But no texting in the movie theater, Mom!)

So, we’ve given your friend a generous pass concerning her children.

Now, why is she playing Candy Crush at the dinner table? Does she offer a reason or excuse when she does this?

Do you confront her about her intolerable rudeness? And if not — why not?

You are a fellow adult. You have feelings. You don’t like being ignored, discounted and then told that your feelings are less important than her online gaming, or that you are “old-fashioned” because you don’t like being ignored.

Frankly, she doesn’t seem that into you. If she was, she would be paying more attention to you when she was physically with you.

Enjoy this relationship for what it is, while it lasts. But I hope that ultimately you will choose to be with someone who makes you feel wanted, important and worth it.

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