Newcomer’s wealth impedes friendship

Dear Amy: Two years ago, I made the decision to move from a city to a rural area because I knew I would never be able to afford to buy a house in that city.

I can telecommute for work.

I have made many local friends, many of which can only dream of earning the kind of money I make.

This hasn’t been a problem until recently. I have decided to buy a house. This is the house I plan to spend my retirement in.

My friends are divided. Many are happy for me, but others now consider me “the problem.” The problem as they see it is when a non-local moves in and is able to afford the everincreasing cost.

I understand this issue. I am near a national park, and the visitor rates have skyrocketed. Many people come to the area to buy weekend homes or Airbnb rentals, which drive up the prices.

I don’t know how to deal with this. I want to be part of the community and I have been trying. I am not someone swooping in just to make some money. — Former City Folk

Dear City Folk: Yes, this phenomenon is definitely affecting rural communities.

The rise of telecommuting is likely one factor, because this means that you can continue to draw a high salary as you live in a beautiful place that unfortunately also has lower wages and fewer professional opportunities.

You should continue to dive into local friendships. Use your professional expertise to help local organizations. Some people will not be able to overcome their own prejudices in order to accept and befriend you. There is nothing you can do about that. Understand their concerns, use your wealth for good, love where you are and appreciate your privilege — but don’t apologize for it.

If you fall into the expected pattern, within a relatively short period of time you will consider yourself a local.