Bestie’s schedule leaves no time to visit

Dear Amy: My best friend has always kept her schedule jampacked, but she has always been there when I needed her.

We live several hours away from each other, but text and call each other often.

Several months ago, I asked to stay a weekend with her because I would be in town for a family wedding.

She happily agreed, saying she had that weekend wide open.

The wedding is next weekend, and she texted me saying that I am still more than welcome to come, but gave me her schedule.

She has scheduled seven other things to take place in the two days I’ll be there.

Some I can understand, like her son’s therapy appointment. But other things were not as big a deal, like going on a double date with her neighbors.

She suggested that I could visit with her parents, who live in her neighborhood. I love her parents, but I can’t help but feel pawned off.

I have lost the desire to stay with her, but she did agree to watch my kids during the no-kidsallowed ceremony. I know nobody else in that city. What should I do? — Not a Priority

Dear Not a Priority: You should drop to your knees and thank the friend who has not only opened her home to you and your children, but is also spending time with your kids during what (I assume) will be a lengthy Saturday commitment for you at a “no-kids” wedding.

She has also given you an idea for something to do (spending time with her folks) while she will be out of the house.

It seems as if you are interpreting this weekend visit as primarily a personal visitation with her. And yet the original invitation (which you solicited) was for you to visit her town in order for you to attend a wedding.

Your time with her might come down to a coffee catch-up at the kitchen table, or her helping you to get ready for the wedding.

Make the most of it.