Choice of baby name comes from parents
Dear Miss Manners: My granddaughter, who has never been married, had a child. She put the last name of the father on the birth certificate as the child’s last name.
I contend that this appears as if she had been married and is not correct. Would you please inform me as to what is the proper last name in this instance?
Gentle Reader: Miss Manners is not sure whom you think your granddaughter is fooling into thinking she is married, but assures you that the government cares only for tax purposes, not moral ones.
Dear Miss Manners: I work with a girl who thinks we are the closest of friends, but we aren’t. I find her irritating at best. We’ve worked together about two years now.
I’ve never considered her much more than a work acquaintance. We’ve hung out socially once or twice, mostly because I feel bad because she doesn’t have that many friends outside of work, but now it’s gotten to the point where if I don’t sit with her, she gets mad at me.
I’ve also just recently become engaged, and now she says she wants to be included in the wedding planning. I don’t really even want to invite her to the wedding, but I know she is going to expect an invitation, as our other colleagues (who actually ARE my friends) will be invited to the event. I don’t want it to be awkward at work if I don’t invite her, but I don’t want to see her on the big day. What do I do?
Gentle Reader: Give her a job — an appointment of honor that will keep her busy and far away from you throughout the wedding and reception. Minding the guest book or looking after wayward children are good examples. Miss Manners realizes that this may not solve the more long-term problem of disengaging with her as friends, but with any luck she will complain to others that she was being used — and want to discontinue the friendship herself.