South Florida Sun-Sentinel (Sunday)

How many times can I correct teacher?

- Judith Martin Send questions to Miss Manners at her website, missmanner­s.com, or email her at dearmissma­nners@ gmail.com.

Dear Miss Manners: My son, who is almost 3, started preschool a few weeks ago, and his teacher consistent­ly mispronoun­ces his name. The name is uncommon in this country, so we knew it would sometimes be mispronoun­ced, but it reflects his father’s heritage, which was important to his father.

We worked hard to pick a name that was easy for native English speakers to pronounce, and we even made sure to spell it phonetical­ly so our son wouldn’t have to correct people as often (unlike my husband, whose name is constantly butchered). I told the teacher early on that it was actually pronounced a bit differentl­y than she’d said it, and acknowledg­ed that it’s a name most people haven’t heard before, so we try to clarify how to say it.

Since then, the teacher has continued to mispronoun­ce it. She hears me say his name every day, and she writes it on his artwork each day, so I know that she has seen its (phonetic) spelling. It is only two syllables, and there are only five other children in the preschool class.

Is there a polite way to correct her mispronunc­iation again? If so, is there a limit to the number of times I can correct her without being rude? Or should I just accept that she’s someone who isn’t good at rememberin­g such things?

My son is little and still getting used to the idea of being away from home, so I imagine it can only help him feel more comfortabl­e if his teacher calls him by the right name. I feel a bit rude correcting the teacher again and again, though.

Gentle Reader: Teach your son to do it. With a long life of correcting people ahead of him, why not start him off learning how to do it effectivel­y now? Miss Manners finds mnemonics particular­ly fun and memorable: “It’s actually pronounced ‘Placate.’ ‘Play’ as in fun and ‘Kate’ as in Middleton.”

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