Caring for your child’s mental health

The coronavirus pandemic has raised our awareness of the importance of maintaining not only good physical health, but also mental health.

“Mental health issues are becoming not only more prevalent, but more recognized,” says Angelique Winston, MSW, a licensed independent social worker with Kettering Health. “In children, it could be anything from ADHD to anxiety to even more complex issues.”

Winston adds, “It’s important to recognize that children also experience trauma, and trauma impacts children in different ways.” Technology has made children aware of happenings not only in their own household and neighborhood, but in their community and beyond. “They’re going to have positive reactions, but also some negative reactions that might come out as signs of mental health issues.”

‘Mental health issues are becoming not only more prevalent, but more recognized.’ Angelique Winston, MSW

a licensed independent social worker with Kettering Health

What to watch for

Sometimes, the cause of a child’s mental health struggles is apparent—family issues such as divorce, the death or serious illness of a close family member or other crises. Other times, parents might simply sense that something is a bit “off ” with their child, or note a

change in their behavior.

“The goal is always optimal functioning,” Winston says. Ask yourself if your child is:

■ Getting up in the morning

■ Able to take care of their needs

■ Practicing proper hygiene

■ Going to school and working to their optimal level

■ Interacting appropriately with people

“If you notice those things are breaking down, something’s not right,” Winston says.

How to respond

If you suspect or know your child is struggling with mental health issues, Winston offers the following guidance.

■ Open the door. Have one-on-one conversations when phones and other distractions are set aside— whether spontaneously or on a routine basis. “We need to have that constant building of relationship, so that when something comes up the child feels comfortable enough to say, ‘Mom, something’s

going on here.’”

■ Get your child talking.

Ask open-ended questions: “Tell me how your day went. Who did you interact with? How are things going?” Let them know you will never be upset with them for coming to you to talk about a problem they have.

■ Offer reassurance.

If your child confides in you, “The most important thing is to first normalize their experience,” Winston advises. “Be supportive and say, ‘I’m here for you. This is something many people deal with. That means it’s manageable — it can be taken care of.’”

■ Consult professionals if needed. “If your child is school-aged, contact the school to find out what services it offers,” Winston says, “especially if the situation is impacting their schooling and academics.” Also talk to your child’s doctor, who has many resources and can refer you to a licensed therapist.

If your child doesn’t have a primary care provider, find one at ketteringhealth.org/ find-care.