Mother-in-law sees proof of late son’s loving ways in kids
Editor’s note: Gloria’s mother-in-law, Lydia Yoder, wrote a special column for this week. Gloria will return next week.
A memorable and precious day occurred for us 35 years ago, on Aug. 28, 1988, when God blessed us with our beloved son Daniel to love and nurture in the admonition of our Lord.
To God be the honor for his Godly examples, and testimony he left behind which inspires us to be faithful in our journey of life. Sixteen days before he left us he remarked to a friend, “I have nothing to hide; I’d be ready to meet God.” This has been a great comfort to us.
Before Daniel passed, he asked me, “Would you write the column sometime?” I was skeptical about it, but as his birthday drew closer I desired to write as he had requested.
To all of you who have family and friends, appreciate them, for you know not what the future holds. Daniel was here one day then gone the next, leaving our hearts bleeding and broken crying out to God to help us and our family, especially for Gloria and her six little ones. God has helped us one step at a time, holding on to his many promises.
One thing that has really comforted me is Romans 8:28. “All things work together for good. …” Even though it’s been hard and we miss him a lot, God has given us grace to surrender again and again, then given his peace and strength to accept his perfect plan, which brings healing and comfort.
The children are still being molded by Daniel’s foundational teaching, under Gloria’s constant watchful and loving care. We are especially grateful for her teaching them Godly principles.
Gloria keeps teaching and training her children good work ethics. It’s already very noticeable how well the children can take on greater responsibilities, making her workload lighter. It’s been a concern that she doesn’t “overdo” herself; family and church family have also been a huge blessing with helping. I sincerely want to thank all who blessed their family with cards, letters, money, packages and words of encouragement since dear Daniel went to his perfect, unending vacation in heaven.
Recently when we were there Hosanna and I were in the entrance, and as I was sweeping, Hosanna picked up a pair of shoes and said, “these were Daddy’s shoes”. In a glance I took it all in, seeing that they were Daniel’s Sunday shoes that he wore the evening before his accident. It brought back memories and feelings of sadness.
Then I heard Hosanna say,” We are one day closer to heaven than we were yesterday!” Oh yes, that’s right, it brought my focus to the eternal again and cheered me up right then and there. How amazing coming from a 7-year-old. Later Gloria kindly told Hosanna to put the shoes back where Daddy had put them. These little things show us the adoration Gloria still has for Daniel after 12 years of marriage. She was his sweetheart and the love of his heart.
We are also grateful for the five-minute walk through the woods to Gloria’s house. We have enjoyed having them here for meals. The children are really growing and so are their appetites, which makes cooking for them more delightful when you see that sparkle in their eye when they see food! I told Gloria I’d take care of the children for a few hours on Thursdays unless something else comes up. I enjoy planning what I could do to make it special for them. It is amazing how snack time is always a highlight for them. When they are happy it splashes sunshine on me.
My mind goes back to a few months ago when Hosanna, Jesse and Elijah were feeling sorry for us. They told Gloria they want to get a gift bag ready for us because our son died. Then here they come all excited, little eyes watching me as I peered into the gift bag. The sympathy card was signed by all three. Here was a candle for Ephraim and one for me, three books to read to them, a note pad and a few other items.
Remarking on some things I asked, “How did you know I needed that?” Their faces beamed. It brought joy to them seeing how happy this made me. Already they are sharing the comfort to others — because of God’s and others’ comfort to them through their journey with grief.
Julia, 11, sometimes says, ”Grandma, if there’s anything I can do to help you, let me know.” She has helped me out many times. Austin is also helpful in running errands for me, saving my time and energy.
Little Joshua, with his golden, curly hair, bright blue eyes and ready smiles, reminds us of Daniel when he was little, which gives extra comfort to Ephraim and I.
And talking about recipes earlier, I should mention that our garden is producing an abundance of zucchini. I made this recipe often as our six sons and daughter were growing up. My 91-year-old dear mother in Ohio sent this into a newspaper and later it was printed into a recipe book compiled by the newspaper cook.
Mix together oil, sugars, and eggs. Beat well until creamy. Then add the rest of the ingredients. Last, stir in zucchini. Mix well.
Pour into 11-by-15-inch pan for bars (a smaller pan would give you more of a cake). Bake at 350 for 5060 minutes or until toothpick comes out clean.
Mix all ingredients together well and spread over cooled bars.